A gentleman is strong. He is confident. He approaches the woman he wishes to take on a date and asks. He speaks to her directly (he doesn’t ask for the date by text). She says “yes.”
Now what? How does a gentleman (or aspiring gentleman) handle the sometimes awkward moments that make up most first dates?
Here at Sterling Gentleman, we decided to ask a woman for her perspective on how a man can go about making a strong impression on that all important first date.
The lovely Carley agreed to share her thoughts on how to impress a woman on a first date and we’re sharing them with you. Here goes.
So, you’ve asked a girl out and she’s said yes…now, what do you do? What does she expect out of the date? You want to impress her, right? Here’s some tips on how to do just that.
First of all, just be yourself. I personally cannot stand when a guy puts on an act and tries to be someone he isn’t just to impress me. Trust me; girls will know if you are faking. If you are truly being yourself, we will feel more drawn to be ourselves and more comfortable around you. It also shows that you are confident with who you are and there is nothing more attractive than that.
SG says: A gentleman is always confident, not arrogant. Be calm, be confident, bet yourself.
Turn off your cell phone. Cell phones make face to face contact harder nowadays due to the sole fact that we are all glued to them 24/7. If a guy is on his phone during the date at anytime, unless it is his mother or an emergency, I automatically lose interest. It makes it seem as though the date is just another thing for him and not important whatsoever. Turning off the phone or just keeping it in the car during the date shows that you are sincerely interested in the conversations that the two of you are having.
SG says: Remember how you asked her out — in person, eye-to-eye. You really wanted to be here, with her, or you wouldn’t have asked. Now, pay attention to the lovely woman who has privileged you with her company.
Clothes make the man. If you two are going to a nice restaurant for dinner, dress up a little more than if you were just going on a picnic. “Dress to Impress” they always say. Us ladies like a guy who knows how to dress himself. (A.k.a. DON’T wear cargo shorts to Olive Garden.)
SG says: Every girl’s crazy about a sharp dressed man. And dressing like a gentleman is a lost art. So, put on some nice pants, dress shoes, and a button down oxford cloth shirt and prepare to impress.
Eye contact is something that a lot of people overlook. I like when a guy can keep eye contact during a conversation because it shows he is paying attention. This is a rather important quality I look for in a guy. This is another one of those confident attributes. (This also may impress her father if you meet him, along with a firm handshake and coming from a daddy’s girl, that is a big accomplishment.)
Now the big one; conversation. If you are going on a date with someone for the first time, there is bound to be some awkward silences. That’s okay. It happens to everyone. Don’t panic. Just think back through your earlier conversations and pick out something you talked about, and then ask a question about that subject. She will be impressed that you remembered something and want to know more about it. Keeping her interested in this way will show her that you are more than just a pretty face.
All in all, just be you, keep calm, and stay confident. Confidence is one of the most impressing and attractive things that a man can be. If something goes wrong, it is not the end of the world. Laugh it off, and move on. Women freak out about impressing men as much as men do about women. Impressing doesn’t mean that everything has to be perfect.
SG says: The key takeaways are — eye contact, attention to detail (clothes especially) and confidence. That’s how to impress a woman on a first date.
Thanks to Carley for sharing with us. For more advice for gentlemen, follow us!